Luke 10, 25:37

10:25 A teacher of the Law came up and tried to trap Jesus. "Teacher," he asked, "what must I do to receive eternal life?"
10:26 Jesus answered him, "What do the Scriptures say? How do you interpret them?"
10:27 The man answered, " 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your strength, and with all your mind'; and 'Love your neighbor as you love yourself.' "
10:28 "You are right," Jesus replied; "do this and you will live."
10:29 But the teacher of the Law wanted to justify himself, so he asked Jesus, "Who is my neighbor?"
10:30 Jesus answered, "There was once a man who was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho when robbers attacked him, stripped him, and beat him up, leaving him half dead.
10:31 It so happened that a priest was going down that road; but when he saw the man, he walked on by on the other side.
10:32 In the same way a Levite also came there, went over and looked at the man, and then walked on by on the other side.
10:33 But a Samaritan who was traveling that way came upon the man, and when he saw him, his heart was filled with pity.
10:34 He went over to him, poured oil and wine on his wounds and bandaged them; then he put the man on his own animal and took him to an inn, where he took care of him.
10:35 The next day he took out two silver coins and gave them to the innkeeper. 'Take care of him,' he told the innkeeper, 'and when I come back this way, I will pay you whatever else you spend on him.' "
10:36 And Jesus concluded, "In your opinion, which one of these three acted like a neighbor toward the man attacked by the robbers?"
10:37 The teacher of the Law answered, "The one who was kind to him." Jesus replied, "You go, then, and do the same."

I do not know why but the gospel yesterday made me think (yeah..i can think .....sometimes).
That particular reading is to tell us explicitly that salvation is not for what you believe,or who you are,what religion you have,what society you belong,its something that you DO.
the example is on luke 10:31 above, the priest which is the symbol and the highest shepherd in the society is not care about the "neighbor".
on Luke 10:32 the levite (according to Wikipedia) is the GOD Chosen Israelite is also not the "neighbor".
It is the Samaritan thats became "the neighbor" (according to Wikipedia is the rejected tribe,low life citizen [but not necessary poor] that have no faith in God [Jewish God particularly] ).

Jesus also teach us that living the teaching of God will affect All of human being...not just for Christian people.

Sometimes i became very sad when people trying to help others is judge for "forced evangelist",just because we help others that not Christian in religion.What even make me more sad...they stop doing good to other because they afraid if the stigma.

Maybe not all of you will agree with me,but if we want to help others (Wisely, of course) we help them anyway without afraid any prejudice they will give us in the end.For doing an act of love and compassion is not something we should be afraid of...no matter the consequences.

So ..be not afraid

1 Corinthian 13:13 Meanwhile these three remain: faith, hope, and love; and the greatest of these is love.

This is what i believe...DO NOT LET your faith and hope makes you not doing LOVE

Favourite Quotes

Gue bersyukur waktu gue kuliah gue bisa berkenalan dengan banyak orang yang sengaja atau tidak mengajari gue banyak hal tentang hidup dan prinsip2nya.

Gue merasa beruntung karena waktu gue sekolah gue kaga pernah diajarin itu semua…yang diajarin cuman imam bonjol lahir tahun berapa dan mati tahun berapa.Ketika gue kuliah pun yang 6 tahun itu (iya kuliah gue emang lama karena gue memperdalam ilmunya hihihihihihihih) tetep ajah kagak diajarin hal2 yang justru akan gue pake dan gue butuhkan ketika gue mulai “hidup” di “luar sana”.

Ilmu2 yang gue pelajari cuman ilmu2 gimana bikin bisnis orang laen sukses karena elo kerja disitu.Tapi bagaimana gue bisa sukses secara pribadi…ga pernah tuh diajarin.

Salah satu yang sampe sekarang gue pegang dalam hidup gue adalah nasihat dari kakak angkat gue di kuliah…walaupun dia juga kuliahnya lama hihihihih (teladan yang salah) tapi secara pribadi..dia orang yang sangat luar biasa…i want to be like him as a person.

Di suatu hari dia pernah bilang gini sama gue

“Son, kalau elo lembek sama diri elo sendiri..hidup akan keras sama elo, tapi kalau elo keras sama diri elo sendiri..hidup akan mudah bagi elo”

Prinsip ini yang akan gue ajarin ke anak gue juga.Plus satu lagi yang terngiang2 di kuping gue beberapa tahun terakhir

SUKSES ITU DIPAKSA,GAGAL OTOMATIS

Kalau mau sukses di semua bidang kita harus di paksa , kalau kegagalan sih mudah, gak usah ngapa ngapain juga kita gagal.

Waktu gue mau merit dan dapet bentuk badan yang “rada bagus” gue ikut fitness, nahhhh Personal trainer gue itu selalu berhasil menyiksa gue tiap kali gue latihan,in another word..Di-Pak-Sa.Udah kagak sanggup dan mau mati sit up…tetep ajah di paksa sampe muka elo berkerut dan merah karena nahan sakitnya otot elo ketarik.

Akhirnya…ukuran celana gue dari 38 menjadi 34 lagi…padahal itu latihannya kagak terlalu lama karena gue kecelakaan dan harus istirahat di rumah beberapa minggu.

Jadi prinsip yang di tanamkan ke gue itu benar adanya.

SEGALA SESUATU SULIT SEBELUM JADI MUDAH

jangan pernah berharap bahwa kalau kita ketemu hal baru itu langsung mudah…pasti sulit dulu kayak waktu pertama kalu belajar naik sepeda,gak tau udah jatuh berkali2 waktu belajar.Setelah udah jago…mau jatuh ajah susah.

What is monogamy ?

According to Wikipedia
Monogamy usually refers to a form of marriage in which an individual has only one spouse at any one time. However, monogamy may also refer to the more general state of having only one mate at any one time and as such may be applied to the social behavior of all animals.^[1] In current usage monogamy often refers to having one sexual partner irrespective of marriage or reproduction.

Etymologist

The word monogamy comes from the Greek words "μονός", monos which means one or alone, and "γάμος", gamos which means marriage.

Only marry once ?
Marry to yourself ?
marry alone ?

Having one sexual partner at a time ? no threesome allowed ?

funny how the animal was the one found the idea of monogamy,since human is the "higher" animal we should be doing it for a long time ago.But no,through out of history human is not a monogamist in nature.

Ancient Mesopotamia and Assyria

Both the Babylonian and Assyrian families were monogamous in principle. In the patriarchal society of Mesopotamia the nuclear family was called a "house". In order "to build a house" a man was supposed to marry one woman and if she did not provide him with offspring, he could take a second wife.Blahhhhh.....

Ancient Egypt

Monogamy is believed to be basic family model also in ancient Egypt.

The writing just stop there...seriously i doubt it.but again maybe just the king who could have a lot of concubine.

If you read the wiki about monogamy here you will find that there is a lot of things to speak about monogamy than just having sex with one person for the rest of your life.

The argue is so hot that you need one more aspect to tie it up.....love...that four words that need to be brought down from its glory to justify monogamy.It should be place to their respective idea...monogamy is just an idea.

Don't get me wrong, i choose to be monogamy,why ?A lot of things such as :

- i cannot cope with another woman because my wife is already fill my days (money,emotion,times,space) up ^_^ LOL.

- The risk of STD.

- Living in the monogamy idea neighborhood.

- Risk management of the non-monogamy idea.

- etc.

My point is, sometimes people use monogamy to justify love...and i hate that.For somebody who have a big capacity of loving it is a personal incarceration.

size..does matter

i just read the news from Kompas here

About a weird news in Papua (that's east Indonesia island where new guinea are).
If you want to be police officer you better not doing or ever do a penis enlargement procedure.

Papua is well know for a lot of methods to top up your penis size by the way.

What it got to do with it you ask ?

Well the method is often mess up with your overall health or what ever that means, and that will make you fail on the health test to join the police academy.

Genesis 15:5

15:5 The LORD took him outside and said, "Look at the sky and try to count the stars; you will have as many descendants as that."

After talking to Ellen my blog friend via phone.I suddenly have a passion to read about that particular part in the Holy Scripture.

Ellen is Batak people, Its one of the biggest tribe in Indonesia which originally come from West Sumatra.Batak people have a straightforward attitude, adventuring soul and a perk on their voices and music (well,most of them).There is a jokes about Batak people that said “when they are alone they will sing or play guitar,when there is two of them they will play chess and when there is three of them they will perform a trio”.

One of the signature things about Batak is their family name and their view about family/brotherhood.

They have a lot family name which determine where they life (in west Sumatra they divide it in 3 major area mandailing, karo and toba).Their family name such as Nasution,Napitupulu,Tobing,Simatupang,Hutapea,Simarmata and a lot of else.

So as examples when a Nasution Married a Tobing both of their family (and their relative) became family,and new the family name would be following the grooms name.

That’s why there is a lot of brothers and sisters in Batak people and they could call it their own.

I just talk to Ellen whom her nephew just arrive in Jakarta after a long time studying in USA and she said (after a week) her nephew still have a lot of family to talk and meet to.

I said to Ellen “maybe Abram is a batak people” because the promise of God that will make the descendent of Abram is as many as stars in the sky.

You can almost find Batak people in every country because of their adventuring soul.Just like Abram descendent.

“You can only find one place where there is no Batak people, its on the moon” they joked.

REGRET

Sometimes in this life we regret the choice we made or the things we said.
That's what i have been doing the whole life..regrets.

But as i grow older,read hundreds of books and hear a lot of wise people i beginning to understand something i thought really important.

Regret can only so far put you in grieve if you let them to.I learn that we could always fix things or achieve things we want eventually.If we spend enough time to let our self to grow.

Today,again i learn about regret.It seems that its all over the place in the trail of my life.

The promise to be better and the dream to be great is what i choose to have right now.

Dear Titania Natasha Part 2

I know you feel that you are have all the right to be this way. I know you are angry with her...somehow you even think not to ever forgive her. I know this is not the time to tell you how much she loves you But,let me tell you about your mom For nine month she carry you where ever she go. Hair falling from her head like crazy and doctor said it was hormone Her cheek filled with dimples and zit (you got hysteria while you got only one or two) Her feet swollen like elephant foot. Her back give up on her at the 5th month and i have to rub her back every night She never even speak or complain about you. She look ugly and fat, more than you have could imagine (but i still love her) Why i tell you this ? Because i was there..beside her,when you are not even born She have to fight 10 hour of suffering to bear you into this world. She cry to bear the pain until her tears dry away. She moan like a cattle in the slaughter house...until she have no voice She bleed after gave birth you for more than a liter Why did i tell you this ? Because i was there..the day you were born. She squeeze (literary) her breast to feed you. Bear the pain of her back to carry you until you sleep. Wake up every two hour to keep you well fed even it means she will get a migraine the next morning Sweat all over her body when she bathe you and wash the "why there is so much" bottle Why did i tell you this ? Because i was there....when you still cannot say a single words This words could go on forever... She change your diapers when she was eating..imagine that. you did that not only once my child...you cannot count it with your tiny little finger. She never speak anything bad about you. i only talk about the first year of your life.... If there is something that beats inside you..i bet you with all my ridiculous amount of happiness. That you can have what you have today, simply because she make that happen. Why i tell you this ? Because i was there...watching...and loving her as best as i could. so it could somehow pour out to you..through her. I love you..She love you more.

one of those mistake

It is funny how we could push somebody that really care about us for a moment of emotional burst.

Sometimes we have our anger in check but sometimes we don't.What we have to think is is it worth the relieve ?

I have been reading many books about relationship and there is one chapter that always relate to the self esteem.It really destroy your relationship....any relationship.

In fact there is a acronym that said LSEMBP (Low Self Esteem Means Big Problem).It really work both ways thou....if your partner have a low self esteem you must be very careful in what you say and what you do.What you think it is a normal term or in the jokes term...could end up hurting their feeling and vice versa,if you have a low self esteem everything you hear is always about you and everything you see is always there to judge you.

it is not a very healthy life to begin with and it is also a relationship destroyer.You must have a good view about yourself,what you are now and what you want to be.Try to always focus on your strength while you keep tamper your weakness.people always like to be treated equally and so are you.Always think yourself as equal as anybody else without removing a simple modesty.

Remember,what you want to say or do is based on what you think.

Think Positive and be proud about yourself.For God create you as one of a kind.

Titania Natasha

Dear Tania anakku,

Ketika kamu membaca tulisan ini mungkin kamu sedang sedih.
Mungkin kamu sedang marah dan kecewa.
Mungkin kamu merasa sendiri dan ditinggalkan.

Ijinkan aku bercerita tentang sebuah kebahagiaan....sekelumit gambar di dalam lukisan hidupku.

Tentang kuasa Tuhan yang memberikan aku seorang bayi perempuan mungil.

Tentang kengerian aku melihat penderitaan ibunya...

Tentang perjuangan panjang yang harus dihadapi ayahnya...

ahhh...terlalu panjang untuk menarik perhatian kamu....

Pada tanggal 14 Juni 2009 ada seorang bayi mungil dalam pelukanku...
ketika ku lihat wajahnya...ada kelebat orang yang aku sayangi di sana....dan hari itu aku berjanji untuk ikut menyayangi bayi itu juga.

Aku menyaksikan air mata pertamanya.
Aku menyaksikan kejap mata pertamanya.
Aku menyaksikan mulutnya terbuka.
Aku menyaksikan bibirnya yang merah.
Aku menyaksikan rambutnya yang hitam dan banyak.
Aku menyaksikan wajahnya yang bulat seperti rembulan.


Aku berdoa kepada Tuhan untuk bisa menjadi ayah terbaik untuk bayi itu..
Dengan segala ketololanku,senyumku,kekuatanku,tangisku,lelahku,harapanku,
suaraku,semangatku,keputusasaanku,ceritaku,hatiku,candaku,ototku,kakiku,
tanganku,kepalaku,otakku.

Apabila hari ini segala sesuatu itu tidak cukup untuknya..aku mau melakukannya semua sekali lagi.


Bahkan dengan nyawaku...


Bahwa hidup tidaklah pernah memberikan semua yang kamu inginkan...satu hal yang pasti aku
akan berusaha memberikan semua yang aku punya...untukmu.

Maafkan bila nanti kamu terjatuh...
Maafkan bila nanti kamu terluka...
Maafkan bila nanti kamu kecewa..
Maafkan malam-malam tanpa teman..
Maafkan pertandingan yang tidak ditonton...
Maafkan ulang tahun yang terlupakan...
Maafkan kata2 kasar dari mulutku...
Maafkan kado yang tidak sesuai dengan keinginanmu...
Maafkan gaun yang tidak bermerk terkenal..
Maafkan baju bercorak norak....
Maafkan perlilaku terhadap pacar kamu...

Maafkan semua itu karena Ayahmu sedang belajar sama seperti engkau.
Belajar berjalan seperti engkau.
Jatuh seperti engkau...
Berdarah seperti engkau..
Menangis seperti engkau..
Kecewa seperti engkau..
Limbung seperti engkau..
Perih seperti engkau..
Dapet nilai merah seperti engkau..
Bolos seperti engkau..
Nyontek seperti engkau..
Di hukum seperti engkau..

Semoga kamu sadar bahwa Ayahmu tidak lebih sempurna daripada kamu...
Semoga kamu tau di balik semua yang dialami oleh ayahmu...dia tidak ingin kamu tau....

Karena dia hanya ingin di anggap sebagai :


seorang yang paling bisa kamu andalkan..



itu saja.

Salah asuhan

Pendidikan nilai ketika masih anak2 merupakan hal yang sangat krusial di dalam kehidupan seseorang.

Nilai2 kejujuran,kerendahan hati dan compassion gue dapatkan ketika gue masih kecil.
Pada dasarnya sih gue bukan anak yang tough..terutama sebagai cowo.
Walaupun sering di gebukin sama nyokap gue..tapi gue selalu nangis karena kesakitan.
Gue tidak bisa tidak nangis kalau sampe di pukul....pake gesper (ikat pinggang) sampe kadang bengkak mengikuti bentuk ikat pinggang yang mampir ke kulit gue.Kadang kulit gue terkelupas dan berdarah saking kencangnya.

Hal itu tidak pernah membuat gue kuat atau bermental baja..malah membuat gue tertekan pada akhirnya.
Banyak orang yang di didik secara fisik bisa membuat mereka menjadi kuat dan tahan banting..not for me..gue malah jadi pengecut dan tertekan waktu masih kecil.

Gue malah melatih mental gue ketika gue ikutan wushu....karena latihan dan disiplin membantu mental gue...apalagi setelah mengerti banyak jurus2 yang diajarkan...gue sering di suruh sparing.

Dari situ gue mulai belajar menjadi orang pemberani..atau mungkin karena refleks yang di latih ketika itu.

Being tough memang penting bagi setiap orang ...terutama untuk menghadapi apapun yang ada di luar sana.

Pernah lihat bagaimana anak jalanan bergaul ? mereka jadi orang yang egois...mereka tough..tapi tidak mengerti sopan santun.....respect to others adalah hal yang mereka tidak pernah tau.

mereka merasa mereka berhak melakukan apa saja...karena mereka survive di situ.

Satu hal positif yang gue pelajari bahwa semua itu bisa berubah...asal ada moment atau bimbingan yang pas.

Mental toughness merupakan salah satu karakteristik yang ada di buku Steven Covey...itu pula yang merupakan salah satu kunci sukses...and yet tidak pernah perlu ada kekerasan untk menghasilkan mental toughness.

Yang gue pelajari dari kekerasan fisik adalah orang yang ignorant....like me back than.

Buktikan dong !

RAN - Tunjukkan Cintamu

Kuingin menunjukkan cintaku
Oh kepada belahan jiwaku
Tlah lama kumenanti waktu
Untuk mengungkapkan isi hatiku

Jangan kau berdiam dan menunggu
Cinta yang datang menghampirimu
Jika kau hanya berdiam diri
Hanya rasa sesal yang kau rasakan nanti

Tunjukkanlah rasa cintamu
Coba buat mereka tahu
Betapa indahnya dunia bila engkau sedang jatuh cinta

Berlarilah sekuat kau mampu
Hingga kau mendapatkan cintaku
Buktikan bila kau memang mau
Buat ku berikan cinta ini kepadamu

Disaat matahari bersinar
Burung - burung pun mulai berkicau
Cintaku kan selalu membentang
Untuk kau arungi bersamaku

Tunjukkanlah rasa cintamu
coba buat mereka tahu
Betapa indahnya dunia bila engkau sedang jatuh cinta



Tadi gue ceting sama temen gue...

Trus kita diskusi
mengenai bagaimana cara mengungkapkan perasaan cinta dengan tindakan.
Kalau kita memberikan statement "Aku sayang kamu"
trus....sang objek menuntut
agar kita membuktikan apa yang kita katakan.
Maka kita masuk ke dalam jebakan relativitas.
Yes, karena setiap orang mengekspresikan
sayangnya dengan cara yang berbeda.
Yang harus kita lakukan adalah
bertanya "kamu mau aku buktikannya seperti apa ?".

bagi gue,gue tau orang itu sayang sama gue kalau
dia bertanya tentang diri gue dengan pandangan mata
yang gue kenal sebagai ketulusan.

Tapi bagi orang lain tanda sayang itu artinya
elo memberikan kepada dia sesuatu barang tertentu (uang itu barang juga).
Without further judgement both of them are okay.

Temen gue yang gue ajak diskusi
bilang seperti ini (ga secara detail perkata):

"Kalau gue sih kaga mungkin
menagih pembuktian atas sayang orang itu sama gue".

"gue yakin waktu akan membuktikan
sayang dia ke gue itu nyata atau tidak".

Contoh yang bisa dia terima sebagai an act of love is:

"Waktu dia udah cape kerja,
dia masih mau masakin gue air hangat untuk mandi"

"ketika dia bisa menggeser ego dia untuk gue"

Thanks God orang yang di sayang
sama gue ga pernah minta kayak gitu (mungkin belum)

I do what i do...and if they
cannot see it as an act of my love to them

its their lost because not to be able to enjoy it.

karena motto gue adalah

"jangan pernah minta,nikmatin semua yang dikasih"

"Mendingan menerima sesuatu
karena kebebasan mereka memberi...ketimbang
menerima sesuatu karena mereka terpaksa memberi"

termasuk rasa sayang.

Banyak orang menjalin hubungan dengan demanding...
barter istilahnya...gue kasih elo ini elo kasih gue itu.
trus mereka menikah dengan memegang prinsip itu...
thats not love..thats business.
Makanya ketika salah satu pihak
sudah tidak lagi menguntungkan
(atau menjengkelkan tepatnya)

they say "bye bye love".

Jarang sekali kita menemukan cinta tak bersyarat

"senajis apapun elo ^_^..gue tetep sayang sama elo."

Bayangkan kalau ada orang yang

tetep sayang sama elo ketika elo super nyebelin....

ketika kesadaran elo kembali (entah kapan)
elo pasti akan menjadi orang yang lebih baik setelahnya.
Biasanya kalau di sinetron atau di film udah terlambat..
orang yang sayang sama elo itu udah mati.

Berani ga sih kita itu mencintai orang tanpa syarat.

mumpung masih masa paskah hehehe

Si manusia berkolor yang mati di kayu salib itu

sudah membuktikan bahwa manusia bisa...

Ibu Theresa bisa.....Gandhi bisa.....

kita seharusnya bisa...

Just and act of random kindness (ARC)

kayak inti dari film Evan Almighty.


-= The best way to find yourself is to

lose yourself in the service of others.=-

Mahatma Gandhi

Where is the love ?

This morning i read a newspaper and was shock about one of the news.

13 years old boy killed a 45 years old lady over a bicycle he does not own.The lady who was his neighbor is feel sorry for him because he cannot go to school any longer.So the lady often asked him to work at her lawn and do some errand in exchange of food and cash.

The boy interested in the old lady bicycle that he saw in her garage.The boy asked the lady a couple of times to give the bicycle to him,but the lady always ignore him.

The boy got disappointed and planning to kill the lady in result the death of the lady and he also injured the maid that also working at lady's house.

Can you imagine a 13 y.o boy ? When i was his age...i did not even have a sightliest idea on holding a grudge against anybody that much.I watch a lot of goggle V movies with a lot of "action" in it...but still it never cross my mind.

Not that i never feel disappointed at that age.Its just if i disappointed at somebody i simply does not want to show my face around that guy anymore....not kill him/her.

This case is more about value...what do you taught to your offspring about life.About love and compassion.With that kind of attitude that kid will never have an abundant life...never.

It is too bad that the newspaper does not collaborate more about his family background and stress on the event.

For me,this event remind me of my job as a parent.Make me think about it really careful and thank God i also seen a nice little kids out there and i want my child to be like them.

Maybe the lack of raw model is one of the problems with kids nowadays.

For all of you who read this post....please do as hard as you can to be a model for the child among you....you just never know what kind of influence you give to them...neither you realize it or not.


-= Your action speak so loud that they cannot hear what you say =-

pacarmu adalah adik angkatku

Gue dapet curhatan menarik nih dari sini

Curhatannya:
saia mau minta pendapat apa yg harus saia lakukan..
soalnya gua suka sama cewe yg udah punya cowonyaa....
tapi gua sayang bgt ma dia ....
untuk sementara ini dia maunya kakak- adek aja..
tapi perhatiannya dia itu berubah saat dia bilang mau kakak- adek an aja..
jadi care bangett...
gmn neeh bingungg....what im gonna do now..????
kira2 neh...bisa nggak gua ngedapetin dia....

Salah satu tanggapan dari anggota forumnya:
Nih gua bilangin, secara gw pernah ada di posisi cowok nya dan elu adalah yang kakak adiknya, kalau gw ketemu elu, dan gw tau hal itu, gw akan gantung lu di lantai paling atas gedung BNI 46 dan akan gw lempar kebawah setelah seharian gw gantung.

My Comment:

Wohoohhoohoho....kenapa sih perempuan suka mempermainkan cowo dengan kata2 kakak/adik angkat ? This is very2 ridiculous deh menurut gue.

Sebagai makluk yang punya perasaan di dengkul hihihihihihi cowo itu sangat sulit mengartikan keadaan seperti yang dialami oleh curhaters.

Cowo adalah makhluk to the point yang tidak nyaman dan rada2 pandir bila berada di daerah abu2.

I bet this is happening in a lot of life this days...i hate to break it but

"GET UP AND SMELL THE STARBUCKS"

Wahai cowo yang berada di luar sanah...jangan pernah mau jadi kakak angkat atau punya adik angkat...

pertama...cewe itu berat, mana kuat elo ngangkatnya.....lebih dari satu hari.....sedangkat status itu bisa berlangsung selama bertahun-tahun (bisa loh..bukan kudu).

Kedua....ini sama kayak legalize TTM, if you want to say that legal.Kalau dia di tanya sama cowonya dia bisa bilang dia cuman kakak gue kok...beuhh puhh leeezzz deh ah....elo kagak akan dapet apa2 kecuali perhatian platonik yang muncul tiba2 (apalagi kalau mereka berdua lagi berantem).

Ketiga...just a waste of time, money and care-ness (kagak ada di kamus)...you can spend it with somebody more worthwhile.

Ke empat.....Masih banyak cewe lain di luar sana sedang menunggu duit dan waktu elo hehehehehe.....ingat sensus penduduk terakhir cowo banding cewe masih 1 : 3 so...masih minimal 2 lagi cewe di luar sana menunggu elo.Ga worth it kalau elo ketemu sama cowo yang komentar di atas itu hihihiihihihi.

Ke lima....the last but not the least.....berhenti mempermainkan perasaan seseorang, kalau elo kagak suka diperlalukan seperti itu...jangan memperlakukan orang seperti itu.

-= What goes around, comes around =-

Healing Phenomenon

Membaca (mengikuti tepatnya) berita akhir-akhir ini mengenai seorang bocah yang mampu menyembuhkan segala macam penyakit orang lain dengan cara memberi minum air bekas celupan tangan bocah tersebut membuat gue takjub.

Bayangkan kemacetan yang terjadi akibat pasien mengantri hingga sepanjang 4 kilometer.Wedew !

Is it really proven ? well all i know that there is a lot of people think it is.

That makes me think about "Collective Consciousness" , how a fate of one nation determined by the thoughts of the people.

You see, if you read a lot of books about minds and what they are capable of, you began to think that all of this is make sense.Mind is amazing things and it could create reality out of thin air.
If you think you could get a healing from a water...then you will eventually.

That puts you in deeper question is it God gift to the boy or for the people who are sick ?

What i believe is as long as they do it for the act of love it is God given.

People are healed,what do you expect ? it is increasing the life expectancy, which is good ...right ?

Now there is another story with the same theme...a thunder rock from Jombang that could heal people sickness.....thats good too,why ? that mean now more people could be healed.

In the middle of a great crisis such as this...i think it is a positive news.

you know what funny is ? once the government try to fix the reaction of the people...everything just begin to fall apart now....they just shut down the practice of the Ponari aka "Miracle boy".

"For i will come to save the world with my blood" -= Isa Al Masih =-

My Dilema

Ternyata jadi pengusaha kagak gampang hehehehehehe klasik yah.

But it is, satu hal yang pasti sering gemes kalau ada hal yang tidak berjalan sebagaimana mustinya.

Seharusnya bisa begini.....bisa begitu.....kalau begini...kalau begitu. dan bla bla bla yang lain.

memang ga banyak orang mau jadi pengusaha, karena kadang ada rasa "kosong" di dalam hati.Apalagi yang udah biasa jadi karyawan....bisa2 bangun tidur elo merasa kosong..do not know what to do.

Well, di sinilah kekuatan doa itu muncul....kepercayaan bahwa if you do the right thing it will pay you someday.

Personally, gue bukan orang yang gampang menyerah...tapi gue juga bukan tipe orang yang suka kerja keras hihihihihihihi...pemalas nomor wahid.

Justru, karena gue malas kalau kagak punya duit akhirnya gue berusaha....
karena gue males di marahin bos akhirnya gue memutuskan punya usaha sendiri.....

well, usaha itu butuh kesabaran dan ketekunan...untung lah in my course of life i have been trained for it.

just want to blurt it out....karena di dada ini rasanya sudah menumpuk-puk

sekarang....legaaaa.....yuuu cari makan lagi.

Have you ever ?

Today i was shocked by one of my friend question.

"in your married life, have you ever wake up in the morning and wonder why do you marry your wife ?"

"is it ever occur to you that you are sorry for yourself that she is not the one you think she is?"

That was two big question with capital B in front of it.

That makes me thinking a bit (head hurts you know).

Marriage is a once in a lifetime action that have a lifetime consequences.Its about decision and a lot of analytical thinking in the process.
When all that is cute and bright subsides,the only thing that stay is your decision and your consciousness.
When we did mass in the church the priest comment about my wedding vow, he said the only thing that was true about this vow is when you say that you have a consciousness decision to love her (he like that part i guess).

I tell my friend that marriage is like when your parents sent you to school,there is no one could guarantee that their child will be graduate at the end of the year.They just do it day by day believing that if you do what the rules says, work your homework, study a lot, face the exam..you will graduate eventually.

And thats like marriage all about , follow the rules (in this case is your mental picture of a good and happy marriage), Do your homework everyday (wash the dishes,do laundry,throw the trash etc), study a lot (Read books,seek guidance,improve yourself), face the exam (face your trouble,grudge,learn to forgive...you are not marrying a God after all)......it will be till death do you part then.

The fear of commitment or marriage is often come from a dysfunctional family.

I have that...sorry to say.Fear is something that i have from my past but, fortunately it does not stop me from "jumping to the fire" aka have a marriage.

I just have to live with it every single day...if you ask me are you sure that you will have a happily ever after ?? are you sure you will stay married after 30 years from now ?

the answer is no..i am not sure..but i could tell you one thing..i am sure that today i still choose to have a married life and be happy about it.

its something you decide everyday that will count...and it could make you feel the blessing of it each day too.

So my friend..if you read this..i want you to know that there is no certainty in this life.....
but i think , in the other side of your fear you have a chance to became what you are not afraid of.
To be different then what you already experience...and it in your hands.As much as i do not want to have a relationship such as my parents.....i make a choice and i see to it that it will happen.

Marriage is an experience too beautiful not to be taken...but still i will honor your choice if you decide not to.

I always look marriage life as an opportunity for me to grow even more as a person..how you could love a person that sometimes irritate you.


"The definition of madness is : Doing the same things over and over again but you wish you get a diffrent outcome" -= Albert Einstein =-

Kaleidoskop 2008

Ada beberapa hal yang sangat menarik....even a turn point of my life this years.
Seperti biasa akan di bagi menjadi 3 interval januari-april , mei-agustus dan september-desember.

Interval 1

Di bulan Januari gue resign dari kantor gue yang lama...pas di 11 januari adalah hari terakhir gue di kantor itu.Ada lagunya kan dari Gigi ?...mantap tuh....kita sudah membicarakan perihal pernikahan dan sebagainya.Febuari dan maret waktunya untuk foto prewed...wedewwwww....ma keren abies deh foto gue...lihat ajah bloopersnya di postingan lama gue.April adalah peristiwa lamaran....kalau kaga salah....teng teng teng.....bentar lagi masuk anggota VVTI (very Very Takut Istri) hehehehehehe.....
Oh iya somewhere di bulan ini gue akhirnya mendaftar fitness....huuffff....huufff

Interval 2
Mulai dari bulan Mei gue dapet tugas untuk mentraining dan supervisi anak marketing di Sekolah Dharma Bangsa di Lampung....yeeeeeyyy gue jalan2 naik pesawat (Norak).
Tugasnya sih quite fun..gue bisa membuat beberapa (enam) modul untuk di trainingkan ke mereka plus gue juga belajar jadi marketing yang bekerja berdasarkan target.
Karena marketingnya perempuan semua jadilah saya penyamun di sarang perempuan (ga mau bilang perawan karena saya kagak tau).
Di bulan ini juga gue dapet kecelakaan yang membuat tulang bahu kiri gue retak....gara2 nabrak separator busway di slipi.mayan bow tangan gue di gendong selama 1 bulan.
My Wedding day at the last day of this interval,huhuuhuhuhuhu wedding bertema outdoor yang sangat cantik....kalau kaga ujan sialan itu...huh..
but look at the bright side.....gue di kelilingi orang yang sayang dan perduli sama gue....its enough for me.
Egh ada tambahan....berat badan gue turun 6 kilo bow....gue terlihat keren dengan baju pengantin...kata tukang jahitnya ukuran celanannya ajah turun 2 size heheheheheheh...berhasil !

Interval 3

Wow memasuki dunia perkawinan kadang masih rada2 bingung bo....canggung gitu.
Pernah pada hari minggu malam.....gue sama dia lagi nonton TV...tiba2 gue keingetan blum nganterin dia pulang..buru2 gue mu ngambil jaket dan kunci motor sambil bilang "Pulang yuk,besok mo kerja jangan malem2 pulangnya" hheheheheheheh jelas ajah dia bengong...oh my God gue lupa udah nikah hihiihihihhih.
Kita sempet jalan2 pas lebaran..ke Malaysia,Singapore dan Thailand...GOD makanan di thailand...macem2 dan murah2.....jadi mu kesana lagi bow.
My wife is pregnant yipieeee....made in Thailand tuh anak....

Kesimpulan: Tahun 2008 is a blessing....

Resolusi 2009 :

- Pengen punya perusahaan sendiri

- Pengen punya penghasilan diatas 10 juta sebulan

- Pengen punya anak (hihihiihihihi ini mah in process)

- Pengen jaga berat badan (huhuhuhuhuuh liburan panjang bikin gue gendut lagi)

- Pengen jadi ayah yang baik (AMIN)

Fun fact about Sex

Dapet dari kompas dot com nih

1. Perempuan butuh 20 menit untuk turn-on? Not exactly. Menurut sebuah penelitian yang dilakukan di McGill University, Kanada, gairah kita bisa naik hanya dalam waktu 11-12 menit saja! Wow!

Wow, masa bisa secepat itu sih? canada kan dingin mungkin perempuannya butuh kehangatan lebih....jadi orgasmenya bisa cepat.Jangan tertipu sama statistik.

2. Di Uganda, kaum perempuan dewasa gemar mengolesi area klitoris mereka dengan sejenis ramuan herbal agar penampilannya terlihat lebih 'menggoda'.

Penampilan ? Speaking about penampilan,kenapa juga rambutnya kaga di macem2 in ? *sambil ngebayangin bentuk klitoris* emang penampilannya bisa di rubah menjadi seperti apa sih ?sayang di kompas kaga ada gambarnya klitoris yang sudah "menggoda penampilannya" heheheheheh

3. Menurut survei yang dilakukan Masters dan Johnson, Amerika, sebanyak 1% perempuan yang jadi obyek penelitian mampu mengalami orgasme berganda yang hanya dipicu oleh rangsangan pada payudara.

Wow cuman satu persen bok...dari populasi berapa yah surveynya ?memang ternyata kaga cukup hanya sekwilda...women is such complicated being.

4. Seorang pria menghasilkan 3 juta sel sperma baru setiap 1 jam selama hidupnya.udah tau..biology or sexology 101

5. Kebanyakan pria mengalami 5 orgasme dalam waktu enam menit setelah terjadi penetrasi.

*cough*editansil*cough*

6. Aroma mirip'cairan pemutih kain' yang berasal dari sperma disebabkan oleh cairan pembunuh kuman alami yang terdapat di dalamnya.

Wah gue baru tau nih ada karbol di sperma

7. Kondom bisa bertahan selama sebulan dalam dompet sebelum bahan elastisnya menjadi mulur karena terkena suhu tubuh, dan membuatnya mudah sobek.

WAKS !! Cuman sebulan ? untung gue kaga pernah bawa di dompet..tapi di tempat pinsil hihihihihihii.

8. Perempuan mencapai puncak seksualitasnya pada usia 30-an dan kaum lelaki pada akhir usia belasan.

Noted !

9. Rata-rata, kaum lelaki memikirkan seks setiap tujuh menit. Jumlah itu bisa bervariasi tergantung pada usia dan derajat kesibukan sehari-hari.

AHHH..masa tujuh menit sih ? gue ajah tujuh jam blom tentu kepikiran seks...apalagi setelah selesai melakukannya hihihihihiihih....kudu recharge kali yah bow.

10. Manusia dan lumba-lumba adalah dua jenis makhluk hidup yang mampu menjadikan aktivitas seksual sebagai semacam sarana rekreasi, bukan semata-mata kebutuhan untuk berkembang biak.

Lucky You !

Curhat at my wedding day

Di bawah ini adalah report of my best friend at their best friend wedding.

Tiadakata yang bisa terucap....hanya satu....Thank you for your warm friendships.

Please ...just be happy for me.


WIDYA
31Agustus 2008, jam 20-an:

.....Aku berdiri di dekat area pelaminan sejak kalian mau potong kue... aku tegang krn.... yah... pokoknya karena semua yang terjadi sore itu...

jadi aku bermaksud memeriahkan pestamu sebisa mungkin dengan cara... bertepuk tangan.... (secara ga punya musical instrument, ga punya mic., ga punya acara utk meramaikan pesta)...

... sempat aku sambil tepuk tangan melihat ke arah meja yg dihuni anak2... dan Deny liat aku tepuk tangan trus ikutan tepuk tangan...

... tapi lama2 aku capek... tanganku panas dan merah... meski aku dah dibantu Sari, Satya dan Maria.... tapi aku tak mau menyerah...

... aha... aku punya akal... aku telpon Eve... dia ga dengar... untung lagi2 Deny dari kejauhan melihat kearah-ku... jadi aku bilangin spy dia kasitau Eve angkat telpon dan aku ajak Eve... Nyanyi yuk!....

... si Eve.. ternyata rada "ngeper" mungkin setelah melihat semua yang terjadi sore itu jadi dia bilang OKE mau nyanyi tapi tunggu lah setelah tamu agak berkurang. Intinya kita akan nyanyi utk Sondi dan Susi, tapi ga perlu kan ketika para tamu masih banyak memenuhi ruang resepsi....

... Yaaah... tapi oke lah... kupikir.... tapi begitu aku tutup telepon si Ray alias Iko nyolek.... intinya minta kita nyanyi memeriahkan suasana spy acara ga kosong (kayaknya pada saat itu kamu lagi minta Maria pergi nyari si Tammy yang megang wadah2 CD berisi hadiah, mau wedding bouquet tossing...

Dia sempat tanya apakah kita bisa nyanyi hanya dgn 2 mic.???

.... Belum tau die... (pikirku dalam ati)... Kalo lampu2 kecil di dahan2 pohon di lapangan golf, grand piano dan pelaminan cantik aja ga hadir kenapa pula kita pusing cuma punya 2 mic.!!!

... Jadi aku telp lg Eve di belakang sono tapi boro2 dia angkat jadi aku mulai berjalan ke arah meja ngetem-nya anak2 tapi eh entah mengapa ternyata anak2 sedang berjalan menuju pelaminan, siap menyanyi!

... Langsung kucolek si mas MC...

Cint n Cau... si mas MC cilik ini tampangnya bener2 ga pede, ga approve deh pokoke waktu kubilang kita mau nyanyi... Same concern... only two mics. bla bla bla... tapi ku tak peduli, pokoke mau nyanyi!!! dia malah sempat naik ke pelaminan n tanya ke Sondi if it is OK for us to sing... Namun....

..... pada saat itu... demi cinta dan semangat membahagiakan Sondi... rombongan bonek yang sudah berketetapan hati sudah tiba di tepi pelaminan sementara Lea dan Brad masih asik2 melantunkan lagu WCBIL yg mlm itu udah kayak radio rusak diputer berkali2...

LALU... entah krn sepatu basah dan badan kedinginan bekas keujanan, atau krn ketek kringetan krn ga ada AC atau krn kaget liat Whitney Houston dateng ama anaknya Mbak Maya atau karena kebanyakan makan soun dan lauk curah (maksudnya diambil langsung dari loyang raksasa milik orang catering) atau krn semangat abis rebutan es puter n salmon pie isi tuna??? or krn kebanyakan makan papaya ;-p....

... the next thing I know... ternyata hampir semua member TCI hafal yah lagu cengeng macam WCBIL... (kalo aku jelas hapal krn udah berhari2 menjadikan lagu tsb wajib ampe ke cengkok2nye)... and as we sing... and bear witness to our own super lovely voices... tanpa sadar kita nyanyi dengan semakin lantang, wajah sumringah bagaikan dipilih menang Indonesian Idol, dan mengerumbul saling menguatkan mental tiba2 nyanyi lah kita sejadi2nya di depan hadirin di pesta kebun indoor... wah wah wah....

Juaranya tentu slh 1 tembang yg emang sudah dipersiapkan " Seasons of Love"....

... Entah kamu tau ga Son, pertama aku mendengungkan note, Eja langsung nangkep n ancang2 ambil suara... ternyata salah bok... menurut Deny, karena dia mungkin di dalem kepalanya ada garpu tala otomat, jadi lah kita mengambil nada... aaaaa... (padahal kan mustinya faiv....).... Five hundred twnty five thousand six hundred minutes.... dst dst dst....

.... ga cuma nyanyi... tapi bener2 nyanyi sepenuh hati to the whole audience... to the poor mics.

... yg sempat kulihat... wajah2 yg awalnya malu2, mata yg agak panik... ah stra-lah... lalu berubah jadi sorot2 jenaka..., congor membuka lebar2 mengalahkan udara dan karpet yang menyerap nyanyian kita. SING LOUD SING BEAUTIFUL!!! Odie yg memegang kertas music dgn wajah malu2... ga apal dia... sepintas kulihat jarinya tetep melakukan gerakan jreng-jreng-jreng, tanpa piano! Haibat!... sementara Erik memotret dgn muka "I'm sorry I'm not singing along guys" dan Deny menggila... Eja mencengkok, Noni dan Grace orgasme, Eve berpikir... aku wanita cantik yg perkasa dan bersuara indah... TM mbathin... "Strraa...lah...! Iko terlihat kagum... entah sama kualitas nyanyiannya atau sama keberanian kita... dan aku... melirik Sondi... ekspresinya... "Gila mertua gue liat temen2 gue edan semua ga tau malu... They'll understand me better now.. phew... Keren abisssss!!!!"...

My eyeball can not help it situation dweh pokoke!



EVELYN

Sinetron beneeerrrr….

Iya! Kita support tepung tangan kok dari "markas" meja pojok! Sempet kebawa mellow sih… tapi waktu Sondi minta (melalui speechnya),

untuk be happy for him… ya udah… gue berusaha untuk menjadi gembira.

Kenapa gue ragu buat nyanyi, Da? Karena gue ga yakin ada space buat kita antara para tamu yang seliwar-seliwir berebut makan.

Jadi biarlah tamu-tamu itu puas dengan makanan dulu, baru dengan suasana agak intimate kita nyanyi…

Cumaaaa…. semangat banci tampil TCI itu ternyata lebih menggelora daripada napsu makan para tamu…

Huahahaha… tau ga….

Kan kita nyanyi WCBIL…… abis nyanyi si MC bilang… yak itulah persembahan lagu dari Choir Immortal… (sambil ngambil mike)

Dan….. dengan semangatnya…. Kita bilang. BELUM! BUKAN ITU LAGUNYA…. ADA SATU LAGI!

Dan dengan tampang kaget, si MC balikin mikenya…

*ngakak…..

Huh ! sekarang aja gue ngakak ! padahal waktu nyanyi season of love kayaknya mata gue berkaca-kaca.

Dasar conductor tak berguna… Farewell Lorna nyanyi Amigos Para Siempre… nangis…

Misa terakhir Lorna… lagi conduct nangis..

Kawinan Sondi nangis juga….

Uh…. Untung conductornya cantik…. ;p

EP (Elza Perez)
Ada episode yang hilang, yaitu episode dimana gua & Ida melantunkan lagu-lagu cinta dibawah naungan tenda dengan cahaya remang-remang dan udara yang lembab di iringi rintikan hujan, sampai membaca partitur harus dengan cahaya handphone…menghibur tamu-tamu yang gundah gulana menunggu hujan reda tapi tetep sibuk makan buah lengkeng & anggur dari meja di belakang kita…huh !


LEONY

Nahloh... heheheh

Doesn't matter, intinya, para penganten baru, moga-moga cepet dapet momongan yaaaa....

Oh iya, menyambung kisah kawinan Sondi, kmarin itu, dari rumah gue sudah membawa asisten loh.... yaitu adek gue, untuk gue gunakan kantongnya, menyimpan lipatan2 lagu Seasons of Love yang sebanyak lima lembar itu dan tidak muat di clutch gue yang imut hahaha...

Pas suasana agak-agak muram karena tidak ada musik dll, keberadaan microphone, walaupun cuma 2 biji, menurut gue telah membangkitkan semangat para anggota2 kita untuk setidaknya mempunyai harapan untuk bernyanyi, ditambah lagi Ida yang dengan riang gembira maju ke depan untuk bertepuk tangan pas potong kue. Gue juga di depan, tapi tepuk tangan gue tidak semenggema Ida yang melakukannya dengan kekuatan super power 10 Mega Watt.

Intinya, it was wonderful to be there... pas awalnya gue sempet merasa sedih dan muram, apalagi Sondi saat itu sudah mulai berkaca-kaca. Tetapi somehow Sondi's wedding was very memorable, that I am gonna remember it forever. It was filled with laughter and joy, and just like a marriage itself, we might never know what is the meaning of the huge storm, but what we know for sure is, after the storm, there will always be a beautiful rainbow. Saaah.....

Undangan Pernikahan

Dear All my Blog Reader.

I am going to tie the knot.

Please find the invitation at :

http://www.kitaupload.com/download.php?file=700Wedding Invitation.ppt.


Best Regards,


Sondi